Death by paper cut syndrome

Most relationships suffer from (what I call) "death by paper cuts" syndrome.

Lets say someone was actually sentenced to an insanely inhumane death by paper cuts. Once they have died would you ask yourself which cut really did them in? Which tiny little incision was the smoking gun? No, because you recognize that, in isolation, a regular paper cut can't possibly kill a somewhat healthy human. It was the sum of all the cuts that did the real damage.

Thats how relationships are. Of course there are physically and mentally abusive relationships that are less paper cut and more grenade launcher but thats not what I'm talking about here.

I'm talking about arguments over which drawer to put the spatula in that turn into an all out religious crusade.

Its obviously not about a spatula.

Start noticing paper cuts now before blood pressure starts to drop. If you don't think you've ever received or gifted a paper cut, you're probably already losing blood pressure.

**edit** Heres the closest thing I could find to an actual death by paper cuts.

Gender Roles

There is a lot of literature on how women and men are different. I don't even know if you could call some of it literature. I'd call most of it garbage or something for keeping a table from wobbling at best. The reason why there is so much written about the topic is because the differences go on and on and can never be fully defined. The reason why there is so much crap about the subject is because we keep looking for an end or a final definition. As long as we're looking, people will be writing. As long as people are writing with the motivation to make a dollar, there will be debris from actual literature littering everyone's bookshelves.

Now that that is out of the way, let me throw my definition into the ring. Its not my definition at all really. A lot of people have put it on paper but I would say God actually designed it.

Man's role: protect, provide, support, and lead.

Woman's role: protect, provide, support, and lead.

Wait, what? Isn't that the same? A chord of two strands isn't easily broken. That isn't because one is made of titanium and the other a squishy mess of emotion (thats what modern American Christianity says). A chord of two strands isn't easily broken because when one fails, the other stays strong and vice versa. Its less likely that both strands will fail at the same time. Does it happen? Yes. Is it the rule? Probably not.

Now to address some skeptics:

Have you ever come between a mother bear and her cubs? Females are bred to protect.

Read Proverbs 31 if you think women aren't allowed to provide.

You probably agree women are to play supportive role, but men? Aren't they supposed to be the ones being supported with a clean home and well behaved children? Did Christ support the church? Than you (husbands) should play a supportive role when you're wife needs one.

"Women can't lead, I know the Bible says that. They especially can't lead men." The fact is that women are leading all around the world. Formally and informally. Instead of telling women to be weaker and stop leading we should tell men to be stronger and start leading. Am I saying women aren't strong leaders? No. I'm saying God designed men to be stronger leaders. Women shouldn't be held responsible for our failure as men.