Foundations of Marriage: small things multiplied by small things equal big things.

Its simple really, but its probably the most profound piece of knowledge I've learned in marriage. It applies to all relationships.

If I want to have a good marriage I don't drive to the good marriage store and pick one up. I have to make thousands of, what could seem like in isolation, meaningless decisions to be in a good marriage.

But it goes both ways. I could neglect to make thousands of decisions precisely because they don't matter. My favorite show is on, she'll understand if I don't help with the dishes. The gas station is busy, she can fill up before she goes to work tomorrow.

There is no magic bullet. Just be a good spouse everyday. Make the small decisions. Even when its not fun (it usually will be). Simply being faithful to your spouse is important but its not enough. You need to be intentional, you owe it to yourself and the ones you love.

You'll thank yourself. You'll respect yourself.

Make the right decisions, pay attention to the small ones especially.